how i healed my relationship with tawakkul in 4 steps(after trauma)

Assalamualikum sis,

Few years ago, I couldn't practice tawakkul.

Not because I didn't believe in Allah. Not because my iman was weak.

But because my nervous system had been rewired by trauma and no one told me that you can't surrender from a body that's stuck in survival mode.

Everyone said "just trust Allah."

But when I tried, my chest tightened. My thoughts spiraled. My body screamed: "Letting go = danger."

So I had to learn a different way.

Not tawakkul as a spiritual ideal I was failing at.

But tawakkul as a practice my traumatized brain could actually do.

Here are the 4 steps that changed everything:

Your anxious brain can't surrender 10 things at once.

It's overwhelmed. It's in overdrive. It needs simplicity.

So stop trying to "trust Allah with everything" and start here:

Identify ONE specific fear or problem that's occupying your mind right now.

Not your entire life. Not every worry. Just ONE.

• The job you're scared you won't get

• The relationship that's falling apart

• The financial stress keeping you up at night

• The health issue you can't stop googling

Name it. Write it down.

"I'm worried about _____________."

That's your starting point.

This is where most people stop at "making dua" and wonder why they still feel anxious.

Because dua is powerful but your nervous system also needs to HEAR you release control.

Here's what you do:

Empty your mind. Focus ONLY on that one problem.

Then say this out loud (yes, with your voice):

Say it slowly. Mean it. Feel the weight lifting off your chest.

This isn't just spiritual it's also somatic release.

You're telling your body: "I'm not carrying this alone anymore."

Your shoulders might drop. Your jaw might unclench. Your breath might deepen.

That's your nervous system beginning to trust.

STEP 3: Surrender the Outcome (Even If It's Not What You Want)

This is the hardest step. And the most liberating.

After you give it to Allah, you have to say (and mean):

Not "I accept it if it's what I want."

Not "I accept it if it makes sense."

Just: I accept it.

This is true tawakkul.

Trusting Allah's wisdom even when you can't see it.

Even when the outcome scares you. Even when it's not what you prayed for. Even when it looks like "failure" from the outside.

Your job isn't to control the outcome.

Your job is to trust the One who controls it.

And I'm not going to lie, this step is HARD when you've been hurt before. When the last time you trusted, you got betrayed. When surrender feels like giving up.

But here's the secret: Surrendering to Allah is not the same as surrendering to your circumstances.

You're not saying "I give up."

You're saying "I trust You more than I trust my anxiety."

STEP 4: Take Action (Then Let Go Again)

Tawakkul is NOT passivity.

The Prophet ﷺ said: "Tie your camel, then trust in Allah."

So after you surrender the outcome, DO whatever you can with the resources Allah gave you.

• Apply for the job

• Have the difficult conversation

• Set the boundary

• Go to therapy

• Make the dua

• Take the medication

• Ask for help

Tie your camel.

But here's the key: you act without attachment to the outcome.

You do your part, knowing Allah will handle His part.

You make the effort, but you don't white-knuckle the results.

That's the sweet spot: action + surrender.

Effort without anxiety. Trust without passivity.

That's tawakkul.

But Here's What I Learned: This Work Needs More Than One Practice

These 4 steps are powerful. They'll shift something in you if you do them consistently.

But healing your relationship with tawakkul after trauma?

That takes more than a single practice.

It takes:

• Nervous system regulation (so your body can feel safe enough to let go)

• Somatic healing (releasing the trauma stored in your body)

• Reframing your relationship with trust (separating Allah from the people who hurt you)

• Practical tools (daily practices you can return to when anxiety spikes)

• Community (because healing in isolation is 10X harder than healing with witnesses)

And that's exactly what I created my 10-Week Group Healing Program to do.

Here's What You Need to Know:

Investment: £1400
(Payment plans available)

Start Date: [24th November 2025]

Spots Available: 3

This Price? It's Never Coming Back.

Here's the reality:

After this cohort, the price goes up to £2200.
I might not run another cohort until March 2026

If you've been thinking about this for weeks .
If you've been waiting for a "sign."
If you've been wondering "is now the right time?"

This is it.

Your anxiety isn't going away on its own.
Your trauma won't heal itself.
Tawakkul won't magically become easy.

But with support, tools, community, and a proven framework?

Everything changes.

What Happens Next?

If you're reading this and your heart is saying "yes, this is for me," here's what you do:

Step 1: Fill out this short application:

(I read every single one personally. This helps me understand your specific struggle and make sure we're a good fit.)

Step 2: I'll review your application within 24 hours and send you the payment link.

Step 3: Once you pay, you're IN. I'll send you all the details close to the start date.

Step 4: We start [24th November 2025 In Sha Allah]. You show up. We heal together.

One Last Thing

I know £1400 is a lot.

I know it's scary to invest in something you can't guarantee will "work."

I know you're probably thinking:

• "What if I can't afford it?"

• "What if it doesn't help me?"

• "What if I'm not ready?"

So let me ask you this:

What's the cost of NOT healing?

• Another year of panic attacks?

• Another relationship where your unhealed trauma shows up?

• Another cycle of feeling disconnected from Allah?

• Another 6 months of white-knuckling through life alone?

What's THAT worth?

You don't have to do this alone anymore.

You don't have to keep trying to "just trust Allah" from a dysregulated nervous system.

You don't have to wait until you're "healed enough" to deserve support.

You deserve healing NOW.

And I'm here to walk with you through it.

Wanna learn more?

With love and duas,

Noorain

Nervous System & Feminine Embodiment Coach for Muslim Women